Prisoner of each of us

When we think about the loss of freedom, we rarely pay attention to the ways in which we voluntarily impose restrictions on their lives. The things we are afraid to try and not all dreams have shaped the lives of us and how we can become like. Often the fear and its cousin sister as the concern that we do not dare to do things that will help us happy. There are too many things in our lives. The prison's most secure prison of our own self-development should include the empty promises. The things that we crave as education, success in work, love someone is the aim that we all share. That is not the way to achieve the subtle or visible the hidden corners of the human soul. However, we often do not do the things necessary to become who we want. People often blame their failures. Parents often take our role in this part. We often refer to the lack of opportunity as life is a lottery game with a certain number on the winning ticket. The lack of time and often requires making a living as an excuse for inaction. Likewise. fear to try and try and fear can not successfully generate the real stiffness. Keeping our expectations low is nothing to protect us from disappointment. We do not like to think myself trapped. This is the land of opportunity. We are surrounded by the illusion of success. Our culture has appeared before us stories from anonymous people become famous (they often have limited skills both). Should have hopes from such stories, most people acquire them as the designated parts of their defects. We were also confused and deterred by the ease of this transition. The slow gradual change to not respond well a society impatient. From where will we find the determination and patience to achieve what we want? There is no shortage of advice. The shop is full of books and magazines hints on how to become rich, powerful, leaner, more dynamic, less worried, more attractive to other schools. One would think that we are too busy for a free program to improve themselves. However, even though the people I talk to have the courage to identify themselves as need help to do things repeated today what they did yesterday and could as last year! My job is just to do this and they wonder what to do to be able to make a real change in their behavior. Before we do anything, we need to be able to visualize it. This may sound easy, but I have seen many people do not know how to link a relationship between behavior and emotion. I am responsible for modern medicine and advertising industry on this issue. We become familiar with the idea that we can just try a few to rapidly overcome so many things we do not like about myself and life. Market drugs affect our mood, change our appearance through plastic surgery and self-improvement through self consumption goods ... has played a major role in creating the illusion that happiness can be purchase. Malcolm Forbes once famously suggested that: "Anyone who thinks that money can not buy happiness shopping are all wrong!» In fact, of course, such a belief would make the news Our anger is increasing and the prisons we create by yourself extra security situation that I call things' intellectual lottery ". There are those who justify gambling that it should evoke hope. People lined up to spend the money on a game-saving unreliable often talk incessantly about what they will spend their millions like. This is not «hope» by any sense. It is located daydream. I tend to deal with patients about changing their lives, but not a small step to step specific to do so. I usually ask them whether their latest plan is nothing more than a plan or simply a wish. Intends or may wish to entertain, but you should not confuse it with real life. Conversion, change behavior and attitudes is a slow process taking place, change is gradual progression. Consider any prisoner who escaped successfully, you will see him full of imagination, the planning time, usually monthly, even yearly with the extremely slow progress towards free. We can not but admire the determination to overcome difficulties and their lessons for us all. One of the hardest things for me to verify when faced with a person who is seeking the help of a psychiatrist is a willingness to change their enthusiasm to practice, courage is necessary when you want to change. Some people seek help for reasons other than wanting to change lifestyle. We live in a society where the complaint raised up into a leading form of democracy. Waves or court space filled with the victims of this: the abuse of children, other people's mistakes, random ... risk behavior volunteers were classified as a disease for sufferers may receive mercy and maybe even be compensated. It's no surprise that many of them appear in the office of the psychiatrist to expect sympathy or pills to calm down their despair. Often they want the paper to be certified or sue letter from defense to forward to go to work. They are not there to engage in a difficult process of reviewing your life, take responsibility for their own feelings and decide that they need to do to be happier and started to do it . To determine the role I was ready to play, I often ask patients the first time they met to sign a letter that says: I have nothing to resign, lawsuits, disputes regarding child, there is no ability to make decisions or problems with the law, including the justification for the stay or wish to change working conditions better. If you want an advice on anything in the above, you need to hire someone else, I'm here to help you with psychological problems. People often have thoughts, dreams or wrong about the intended change in practice. The confusion between the word and make this a cloud cover over the course of therapy. The confession may be good for the soul, but if it is not accompanied by a change of attitude, it's still just words alone. We are creatures use words, thoughts brief description in writing (you remember, but when you hear people talking passionately in a mobile phone which see) We promise attached to a excessive importance. At any time, as it often happens, I point out to people the gap between the words they say and what they actually do, they are always surprised and sometimes enraged that I would not notice the true value of what they intend to do that prefer to focus on a reliable communication behavior. It may be the most confusing thing is that people often told each other 'I love you'. We expect to hear those words very powerful and convincing the rich. If separated, however, when those words are not actions to support, it is only a lie, a charity, a promise is surely not complete. The discontinuity between what we say and what we do is not only a measure of the status hypocritical because we have always believed that the statement comes from our good intentions. We simply have too much attention to the words of our own or others-that do not pay attention enough to really determine the actions we humans. The walls of the prisons we build should be made of the risk and fear of our dreams that the world and the people in it are created to comply with the most beautiful dream our. It's hard to give a pleasant illusion, but building a happy life outside the faith do not adapt to the world around us is much more difficult.